Concerns About Codependent Newborn

Dear Aunt Vibby,

I love wearing, but my mother-in-law believes that if I continue to use my stretchy wrap, my 4 month old will never learn to walk. She also thinks that he will be a hopeless mama’s boy for the rest of his life, and that I will need to live in the basement of his house when he grows up and marries – obviously to a girl who is alarmingly similar to me. What do you think? Am I spoiling my baby?

– Concerned in Congers

39345decc3414971b0c850cc171e07d8_p_400Okay, you cannot spoil a baby. Human newborns are born helpless and dependent on their parents; they are not giraffes that plop 6 feet to the ground at birth and are able to run away from lions within an hour. During pregnancies, babies are carried and cared for 24/7 – it’s no wonder that they find the outside world something of an adjustment! Research shows us that wearing actually benefits your child’s mental, emotional, and physical development. Wearing in a tummy-to-tummy position strengthens the same muscles as tummy time! Additionally, many infants that have colic or acid reflux find the vertical position more comfortable than being reclined. I assure you that even the most frequently worn babies are walking and hitting the same milestones as their less-worn peers – no one is heading off to college in a Tula.

For more information about infant development and the benefits of babywearing, check out these links:

Babywearing International


Dr. Sears

La Leche League

Natural Child Project

Onya Baby

Parenting Magazine

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